Jealousy/Envy Sydnie Sweeney
Special interest Article
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI
Published by Anthony Iantosca, BCFE
For the International Academy of Forensic Examiners and Investigators.
Behavioral Profiling
Jealousy/Envy
Sydnie Sweeney
Jealousy and Envy are kissing cousins but are not the same. The outrage that is being tossed at Sydnie Sweeney over the last week has more to do with Envy than anything else. Ms. Sweeney has assets or qualities that some other people do not have, she is lovely, famous, rich, has a nice body, face, hair and eyes and is getting a great deal of attention. So insecure people are Envious of her. Envious people feel that way because you have something they do not have, could be a better house, car, better body, better mink coat, a bigger gold chain, the list is endless. So to feel better about themselves they want to destroy Ms. Sweeney and her profession. People who are very envious cannot be trusted, they will smile in your face while cutting you up in pieces behind your back. Their main objective is to destroy you. Many of the talking heads on TV have stated that other people are Jealous of her, it is more in line with Envy than Jealousy. Jealousy is more of an interpersonal behavior pattern between lovers, partners, family members and friends.
Jealousy is the great insecurity. This fear trait rated extremely high in all of the insecure personalities I profiled over the years. This jealousy was "Sexual Jealousy" or what is called "Morbid Jealousy," the most dangerous type of Jealousy. These extremely insecure personalities were the most volatile when their Abandonment Fears were triggered real or imagined. They accused their partners of everything under the sun. They checked everything, their computer, panties, their car, their phone, their face book page, tried to isolate them from family and friends, they are jealous of their hobbies, anything that took attention away from them. You must remember with the "insecure personalities," their imagination now becomes their reality. They watched their partner like a Hawk every time they went out.
Extreme Jealousy is a form of insanity, there is no logic to these personalities when they are triggered. In one case I worked on, I heard these words from him, "if I can't have her, nobody will have her." I talked with this man for over a month. I conducted a threat assessment profile on him for the client who hired me. I stated point blank this very jealous insecure male would harm his wife, she was in imminent danger. Two weeks later I received a call from the client who hired me. He killed his wife in a very horrific fashion. An act of extreme violence on an innocent woman that has haunted me to this day.
With these insecure personality types jealousy is the most dangerous and the most corrosive behavior pattern. Jealousy is the great insecurity. All of us have felt a little insecure at times. This is not a problem, we deal with it in a reasonable manner. We have a healthy opinion of our own self worth. Most of us can validate ourselves from within we do not need others to validate our own self worth. These insecure personalities cannot. They need others do so.
Their jealousy does not mean that Suzy Q has a new mink coat and I do not. This is more in line with envy which is the kissing cousin of jealousy. Many times jealousy and envy are confused with one another. Jealousy is the feeling that the personality is not getting the love, attention, affection, respect or admiration that he/she feels they deserve at this stage in their lives. When jealousy enters into the pathological area such as "Sexual Jealousy" or as it is labeled "Morbid Jealousy" also called the "Othello Syndrome." That is when jealousy has entered into a very dangerous and volatile area. This is where the statement "If I can't have him or her nobody will," enters into the picture. Never, ever dismiss that statement.
Extremely jealous personalities want to own and possess another person which is an physiological and psychological impossibility. Not to the extremely jealous personality. You are nothing more than an object to be possessed than a person to be loved. There are warning signs early in the relationship that should flag you to the possibility that your new love interest may be a very possessive and insecure personality. Handwriting Analysis is the quickest way to detect the trait of jealousy and how consistent the trait is in the personality with the other underlying traits the will reinforce or reduce this fear trait and its potential for violence on a scale of one through ten.
When the handwriting is not available early on in the relationship there are red flags and behavior patterns that you should be aware of, remember falling in love takes time, personalities who fall deeply in love with you after three or four dates is always suspect. Personalities who need to call or text you all day, checking up on you, wanting to know who you are with, asking what time you will be home, becoming angry if you want time to spend time with your friends of family. Becoming involved in every aspect of your life in the early stages of your relationship. Becomes moody or angry when you want to do something that does involve him/her. Violates your personal space, checking your cell phone, computer. Wants to move the relationship faster than you would like, talks about moving in with you, getting married. Talks in terms that you are the one magic person that completes him or her. Extremely jealous personalities are very controlling. You are their possession an object. Never confuse jealousy with love.
